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Naboulove power series 3:Exercise your unlimited power of choice

Exercise your unlimited power of choice

« Man’s power of choice enables him to think like an angel or a devil, a king or a slave. Whatever he chooses, mind will create and manifest » Frederick Bailes

Choice is a life defining factor, & a complex process hidden behind simplistic actions.  As a matter of fact each decision made – generally consciously- affect our lives in a minor or major way.  Each decisive questions’ answer is more like a verdict than a choice in a certain way.  Our selection often determinates our future in life. Should I marry him even though I don’t really love him but I want a husband? Should I resign to accept that job offer? Should I stay or should I go when I am in an unhealthy relationship? Choice is the factor that guides us through life’s labyrinth & either gets us stuck in confusion or get out of it. The power of choice lies in accepting its consequences & adapt along the way. The professional choices I made  have had a positive impact on my career & I don’t regret them.  But they took me far away from my roots, my culture, my family , my friends. The nomadic lifestyle inherited from my genes has become “the story of my life. Now I am sure you must think: why don’t you go back?  Because that decision itself needs a lot of reflection in my current life situation. And the process to make a decision about it is not soo simple. Am I ready to change country & start a life all over? Tough choice.

CHOOSING ACCORDING TO A  PROCESS

What do I have here?  What are my options?  What would be the consequences? Not only for me but for my children & for the people who work for me? Am I ready to live with the consequences of my choice. Can I be selfish & only focus on the positive for myself ,  versus the negative ways it could affect people around me..Can I handle the negative regardless of the positive outcome. Somehow I can can delay the decision but sooner or later I will not be in a position to ignore & proceed. There is a common example in Afirca that I love taking, it’s that it is not often that Generals take over in military coup. Captains are more spontaneous, they act & then they think. And they do succeed in becoming Heads of States even if it’s for a short time. If they had spent time like me measuring pros & cons, they certainly would have never done it. LOL…

So in the process, intuition, might beat logic & logic might stop you from reaching your life purpose & final goal. So think wisely , but don’t put too much rhetoric & mathematics in the procedure. But listen to your instinct. That little voice inside of us is one of our more valuable asset.  Other people’s advices can be interesting , depending who. Sometimes people who don’t know us can give us the best orientation because they talk with any prejudice. Anyway the final choice, the steps are yours to take, once you have integrated all data & digested them, the light “Eureka” will appear in front of you. Give a chance to the process, & exercise what psychologists  & philosophers call your free will.

I’ve realized that being happy is a choice. You never want to rub anybody the wrong way or not be fun to be around, but you have to be happy. When I get logical and I don’t trust my instincts – Thats when I get in trouble. Angelina Jolie

Free WILL an abstract notion

I smile when I reread the previous sentence. Our free will being conditioned by so many exogenous factors : our education, our family background , our religion, our  environment. But somehow the doers, those who contribute to the changes in the world, just follow their inner voice regardless of all the above cited. Galileo said that planet earth  was round when all the scholars then cursed him as heretic. The plane, the great discoveries we find so natural resulted from the persistence of men & women who often defied logic to follow their intuition … Even though their work was based on scientific researches. So we sure have control over our will power but do we really have free will ?

“At fifteen life had taught me undeniably that surrender, in its place, was as honorable as resistance, especially if one had no choice”. Maya Angelou

UNLIMITED POWER OF CHOICES

As human beings, we are endowed with freedom of choice, and we cannot shuffle off our responsibility upon the shoulders of God or nature. We must shoulder it ourselves. It is our responsibility. Arnold J. Toynbee

Few lessons were learnt or should I say gathered throughout my so eventful little  life:

-No Choice is a choice.

-When destiny chose for me even if at first I was depressed it always ended up being a blessing in disguise.

– We live up with the consequences of our decision. And no matter what there are two points of view: It can be great to stay in bed but we shouldn’t be surprised if we can’t make ends meet. We made that choice. We can either decide to start or continue thinking about it…Between the idea & the reality , One step is action. Action resulting from a conscious choice.

-To see a glass of water half empty or half full is also up to us. So the lens through which we see life is up to us. Happiness is more a choice according to me. My personal opinion.

-Choice leverages change , it can be a short term or a long term one.

-There is a big difference between Action , Reaction & Status Quo.

-You can move with the flow or go solo, your power

-Beware of the seeds of your decision. The good or bad will vary from where it rooted: : love, anger ,fear ,frustration ,joy. Pleasure is not happiness . So YOUR CHOICE …

– The right or the wrong varies according to a point of view. Your point of view is what counts as long as it’s morally ethical. Sorry no free will when you want to commit unlawful act. Conscious rules. We are humans, we know what is right from what is wrong even though the wrong seems better for you.

–  Action is not only involved when you choose but also thoughts, feelings , vibrations & energy shift. They are variables that will affect your options. So meditate, rflect & think about it without being obsessed. You might be surprised the Choice will just pop up in your head.

LIFE= SUM OF CHOICES

What is life now? Our parents choices, our habits – automated unconscious choices- . If my mum never sent me to UK & US –almost against my will- for English summer sessions when I was a teenager, would I have written in English? Not sure. If my kids were not born in US would they be US citizens? So my mum chose for me & I chose for my kids & my life & their lives will be affected somehow by these choices. However to own your choices , to master them, nurture them, endorse wisely their consequences  creates a sense of responsibility . And we are powerful when we don’t let the past, circumstances, negative feelings or other people rob our right to chose regardless of the past.

Life is now stop waiting for that perfect moment that will never come to just do that choice. Always go for what you « want », and not what others « want » for you…Only you and not others will live with the it at the end of the day  🙂 And whatever your decision , There is always another choice… A word is enough for the wise.

“You’ve got the power”

“Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved”. William Jennings Bryan

©Naboulove

Naboulove power series: 2-Be N-POWERED BECAUSE YOU ARE POWER FULL

Ok Naboulove tagline is normally “Be empowered because you are powerful” I just changed the empowered by N-powered & powerful to power full . If I dared I would have written power filled…I dared. *SMILE

So what is “to empower” ? In the various definition I read it is described as “A management practice of sharing information, rewards, and power with employees “  or “the process of enabling or authorizing an individual to think, behave, take action, and control work” . From the UN’s Guidelines to Women’s Empowerment ,Women’s empowerment is :

-Sense OF Self Worth as a woman

-The right to choose

– Access to resources & opportunities

-Control over their own lives at home & within the society

-Influential in achieving social justice within their nations & at the international level

I love taking my grandmother as an example : if she managed to be a financially independent Fulani woman in the Senegal  40’s what could possibly stop me now? Just wondering… But you will be surprised by my views on empowerment. Yes a stay at home mum can be more empowered than a high executive lady Boss. Unlike what can be thought some women make that conscious choice & they still have a voice in their couple without feeling used & abused. With new technologies many women operate home based business & are achieving some sort of financial independence that help them sustain to their basic needs. But anyway beside that general notion of empowerment , I believe that we need to “emancipate ourselves from mental slavery” to be in a  full process of empowerment. So what makes one power -fully  power filled and N-POWERED?

1- Do you say No or Yes when you really feel it & want it or do you just say it to please the crowd? Next time you say yes or no just think before you speak. The choice is yours.

2- Don’t be afraid to show your vulnerability,  you are just being human with strengths & weaknesses . Cry without shame & let that pain Go & let God, he is in control.

3-  Expressing your pain & sorrow gives you a power , a sensitivity ,a humanity. Since you have had the strength to let God you become Fearless & totally Faithfull. There is so much power in faith.

4- Embrace change wherever it comes from, learn to integrate it as an opportunity to upgrade yourself physically, spiritually, Emotionally. So don’t be afraid when you are out of your comfort zone. What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.

5-Say it out loud the way you believe it, fight for your truth, be real. Really real. Just try do things for yourself without seeking  approval. You were born for a mission so open your wings & start flying because you can fly.

6- Be your sisters’ keeper, lend a hand to other women. Don’t judge until you wear her shoes. Respect differences, you are not more powerful because you carry a designer bag , have a rich husband or hold a MBA. Our sisters who carry heavy loads from dawn to dusk to guaranty a loaf of bread to their kids or sell puff puffs on the road side are much more courageous than us. Be open to those who are different from you. Be humble enough to learn , stop looking down. Praise the successful, support the mislead & try to make constructive critics. Or STFU (shut the fuck up –yeah I said it). There is power in appreciation. It shows you love yourself enough to love others. Envy is just a manifestation of low self esteem & self hate. If you didn’t know now you do…

7-Try to  Connect positively around you. Share your smile, your sorrows, your joys, your pains , your cause, your knowledge, your blessings. Be generous with your emotions & your experience. Your mistakes might help somebody. Sharing is caring. Connecting is strengthening. Connect, Communicate, Care.

8- Cultivate your inner Harmony– by doing what you can with what you have: its called contentment & start chasing procrastination with action by doing what you have to do when you have to do it. Hmm reminder to self.*Sigh

9- Nurture Love love & love. Let people deal with the rest :their insecurities, negativity & their own luggage. Step up & feel secure to love.

10-Stop apologizing for being you. Just stand up because you are a Powerfully power filled  & powerful sister, mother, daughter, wife, friend, woman.

“Be N-powered Because you are Power Full”

©Naboulove

Nanowrimo then what?

Finally I did it , I completed my 50000 words without finishing my novel. But still feel good about having met the goal assigned. What’s my next step. As I have an hyperactive mind , hardly able to concentrate on one thing, constantly multi tasking , I stopped novel writing for 2 weeks, leaving my blog reader angry https://naboulove.wordpress.com but promising myself to finsh the current novel I post weekly on my site (in french sorry) . I have promised my future editor to review the manuscripts I have completed 10 years ago & kept in my closte. I wasn’t ready then for my coming out as a possible WRITER. But time is passing by & I have to live my passion, even though , my work is also a passion to me – you see I am hyper & have attention disorder-. Anyway, i felt relieved to have kept my pace, writing averyday a bit following a regular pace.So now let’s go back to the priorities:
1-Finish novel 2 for online readers by mid January (InshAllah)-.
2-Edit & Rewrite Novel 1 for the what ? 4th times…
3-Finish NanoNovel some time next year or simultaneously..

In the meantime, still run my business & take care of home . Reminds you of someone. OOh you? Yep welcome to the busy mums club & loving it. So I still have 2 poetry books ready for publishing, one in French & one in English. All this is part of my coming out…

Wish me good Luck coz As busy as I might seem, I am a quite a professional procrastinator…

Merry XMAS folks..