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Is the African man selfish…in bed?

 Our men do have a reputation for having been granted big tools . You want me to be more explicit? It would be Xrated. I think you all got the gist so stop pretending. So from that  » Legend » ,Black men got a reputation of being real stallions. But while having lunch with some friends few weeks ago, I overheard a conversation between 2 of my girlz seriously questioning that image given to Our Male. Their main concern was : What is the point of having a big one if you only use it for your own pleasure? I could sense rancor in the tone of B’s voice. And D. Emphasized : yes sure it’s only about them in bed. Straight to the point without any fantasy allowed, no cuddling or kissing , no preliminaries allowed, just the classic back & forth movement, in & out, until He enjoys himself. All about his own pleasure. Some started getting involved just to confirm that our brothers just pursue one main goal in bed: please their own selfish self. So
how to get them to fulfill their woman’s need without getting the answer of the horrified muslim man  » That same mouth who reads the Qoran? » . How to have our men be more generous towards in bed, without being tagged with a certain label?         

1-    Start by freeing yourselves ladies: men are naughtier than you think, sometimes they are just waiting for a go from you. So be crazy! Don’t be afraid, this man is yours so open up!                             

2-         Invest in X-rated accessories, it is not an Oyinbo thing , or only for toubabous. We sure have limits as Africans but be freaky with your man. Just the 2 of you can be freaky as long as you introduce a heating lubricant or a soft erotic movie progressively. An edible massage oil or a soft candle light, a G-string made of sweets , etc. Be creative but don’t bring it all at once, pr he might run away. Be smooth & gentle as you introduce ONE of these items, each time. Spice it Girl but don’t overdo it.   

3-        Send him a sexy story either by email or text message, describing one of your fantasies. Make it short, sexy & tasty. Make it erotic not crude & hardcore. & don’t ask him if he got it if he doesn’t talk to you about it. He will perform it live for sure.                       

4-       Talk to your aunts & grandmothers, in each African tribe there are secrets that elder women keep on how to drive men crazy. And sometimes mothers are too shy to share with their daughters. Do not be afraid to be traditional, our people have used it for centuries before Europeans came & attempted to  » civilize » us. You will be surprised how beads or some traditional herbal drinks, green tea, kola nut could have a magical effect on your man. 

5-      Love your body unconditionally, you are a voluptuous African Queen & feel good with it . I didn’t say you should stuff yourself but believe me , in bed our men love flesh & curves. but as always well maintained & firmed curves are the trend so be sexy & fit Cleopatra!                                   

6-      Talk to him, tell him how you want it but subtly, sofly & clearly. Does it Sound impossible? I know you can. Hold his hand & direct it gently. Kiss him with passion. Open your heart & tell him what your fantasies are .remind him that he is your fantasy, the man in your sex dreams. Tell him about dreams you made of the two of you. Whether they are real dreams or daydreams. Express yourself , before u complain about him not giving you the smooth touch before getting there. 

7-       Touch him gently! Don’t be afraid just rub the palm of your hands all over him, Taste his skin, smell his body odor closely , look at him in the eyes, talk to him in his ears, experience the 5 senses feel on him , & let him reverse it to you. How does that feel? Better! Right? When you are generous, you receive a lot … So give..                                     

8-      Moan, groan, whistle, shout, tell him how its good when he tries that new thing u have been longing for years. Let him know it turns you on, you will certainly get more of it. Try & tell me.   

9-      Don’t be shy about anything, you are already naked right? Then what else is there to hide? Uncover the veil of fake dignity & sex him up…                         

10-  Do 1 to 9 & enjoy a more open & giving man, shaped by you.just be, feel & act crazy, coz love has no boundaries.               

 AND MY SISTER IF NOTHING WORKS…   

tHAT was Naboulove …