The Senegalese Women Art of Seduction by NabouLove

The « Djongoma »  Manifesto

You have certainly heard about the art of seduction of Senegalese women; Yes? No? Hum… Ya all missing something!! And when I say all, I mean all of you Ladies & Gents. Since Childhood, we have been raised to be seduction Queens, let me be clear here, it’s not about beauty contest, it’s about being attractive, elegant & pamper our Kings. Yes!! We call it “ Mokkeu Pojje” which can literally be translated in “Soft Thigh”, the art of responding to our Men’s need. Don’t mistake it with submission or else, it’s an art like the Geisha art of entertaining men in Kyoto ‘s tea house. Senegalese women are highly educated , & /or independent traders traveling around the world; They play a big part in the Society . But once Mrs. Doctor, Engineer, Minister, Trader , etc. gets home, she takes her working clothes off  & puts her “Diongoma” or “Drianke” outfit. The high rate of polygamy in my country has developed a certain competition among women who has proved to be a motor for creative tools for seduction.

I know you both work sister but no African man wants to get home after his woman, so try as much as you can to be home before your “Nidiaye” Uncle in wolof , and be there to welcome him with a big smile & a warm basin of salted water. You take his shoes off , soak his feet in the water while he is telling you after his day of work. Ok you don’t feel like it, you had a hard day, you have your PMS, your boss is giving you hard time, to cut a long story short, you have your own problems; ok I hear you , but put them in a storage room & show interest for your man’s achievements, problems, story . Then while chatting with him you can mention some subtly some of your issues. Don’t force it on him, & be like a mother, make him your priority at this time. Once he is relaxed , u gently wipe his feet & give him a relaxing massage, & you can use that opportunity to ask him whatever you want. Which man can resist to such a treat? 

Next step the relaxing back massage , why should let any other woman massage your man , learn how to give him the relaxing body touch by getting massages yourself, as you are on the internet, you have access to youtube where everything possible is broadcasted; also bookx , dvd’s are available in any book store. Personally I recommend the use of lavender ,peppermint  or orange blossom massage oil, they are very relaxing. Preferably this massage will take place after dinner , while sipping a ginger spice herbal drink made by you, it’s digestive, & aphrodisiac: grate fresh ginger, add cinnamon,clove, cardamom & fresh mint . Filter, sweeten with honey & enjoy it together when the kids are sleeping.  Yes the kids must be in bed latest at 8:30 pm , so that you can enjoy your private space with your love.

Our homes always smell good, no man wants to enter an onion, dry/smoke fish  smelling house . As we all know we use many smelly ingredients to cook our tasty soups. That doesn’t mean our homes must smell food. In Senegal we have a passion for incense called thiouraye , burnt on hot charcoal & very efficient at getting rid of any bad odor. But it is not a Senegalese exclusivity and can be found throughout Africa & is widely used in Muslim countries. Usually men don’t like the smoke that goes with the nice smell, so make sure you burn it before his arrival & far from him. As an alternate choice, you have a large choice in Indian shops. You can also use essential oils, scented candles, pot-pourri , etc. For a smell close to our thiouraye & appealing, I recommend cinnamon, musk, amber or patchouli scents. If you prefer flowers’ scents, jasmine, rose & lavender are all time winners. For fruity scents, the sexier are peach or any berries scents. So your home must smell good & your bedroom must be a “sexing “  room.

What about the Drianke’s attitude?

 She walks slowly, doesn’t laugh or talk loud, & always serves her Man first. The Male stays the Male, even if she is richer, powerful,& older. She is the epitome of womanhood. she is always covered from head to toe, her curves are covered with a boubou or a djellaba, giving space to the man’s imagination, low waist jeans, tight clothes or sexy tops are a no no for a respected Drianke, she wears brocade, silk or cotton & lace dresses; The Senegalese woman when dressed in traditional outfit is always inviting to sensuality, the boubou comes in various shapes: , pinched at the waist, fitted, etc.The shoulders are often slightly uncovered & henna design on the ankles creates a certain mystery around the woman’s body. To be sexy , no need to be half naked, the Man’s mind is tortured through the 5 senses: the woman looks good, the home smell goods, the food tastes good, the massage is nice & she talks nicely & gently to her man. They imagine the “bethio” wrapped around the waist & think about the” bine bine” belt. The “bethio” is a handmade wrapper either knitted or embroidered that doesn’t cover much of the woman’s body. There is even a desin of “bethio” named “Keuyitou keurgui” meaning the documents of the house.

You can replace the beads by a gold chain around the waist. G strings & bras are even made with beads or knitted. As well as beads chains are made with luminescent beads. A drianke is never caught home dressed funnily , she is always well dressed & clean looking even when she is cooking. It sounds hard but yes you can…

 Whenever she moves, her perfume travels with her, & she makes sure her “dials-dials” & “bine bine” are soaked in incense when she doesn’t wear them.  If you have a favorite fragrance, invest in the whole range from the deodorant to the body lotion & bath gel, so that you leave your  olfactive signature. You must leave a fragranced track, everywhere you go. On a more intimate note always have moist wipe at hand to be fresh at any given moment. Naughty wink from Naboulove. If you want to know more about  the “Drianke” style don’t hesitate to contact me naboulove@gmail.com. And you can check the site http://nafytoolingerie.com  for Senegalese lingerie.

 And Sistahs trust me a caring woman is always sexy!!!!! So be “Djongue”.

So until next time pamper your Man!!!

©NabouLove 2009

Thiouraye is a secret mixture of oils, perfumes, seeds and fragrant wood to use as a body perfume, with an exotic, sweet, spicy, herbal aroma.

A Drianke or a Djongoma is an elegant Senegalese woman mastering the art of seduction.

Djongue: taking care of your man so that he only wants to be home